Taking off the masks of who you thought you needed to be can be terrifying. It can feel like being stripped naked and set out to pasture.
“Everyone might see!!”
Damn straight that they will
They’ll see you in all of your naked vulnerability. The naked truth of you really are. The truth of your soul showing out of your face.
Finally Showing Up Who You Are
Recently, I had a client share with me that they’ve successfully accomplished what they’ve been trying to do for 10 years. In just a few short months of working one-on-one together:
She’s finally feeling comfortable in her own skin.
Showing up as who she really is, rather than being afraid, or worried, or cynical, or guarded as she once felt about who she was.
She feels both strong AND compassionate. Both confident AND kind.
And everyone in her life can tell the difference.
When you finally show up as all that you are your whole world will shift on its axis.
You’ll stop feeling as though you have to “fix” yourself, or other people. That you have to fight to wrestle control of reality so that you don’t fall into the chaos of the Toxicity & Trauma you came from.
Instead, you’ll lean into an epic amount of trust and a sense that it’s safe to finally show up as who you truly are.
Help Your Kids By Helping Yourself
Once you show up as who you really are, it’s not just your life that changes. But the lives of everyone around you.
Several of my clients have spoken to me about the incredible difference they’ve seen in their kids, especially their daughters, through our work together. Their daughters have gained confidence in who they are, felt more comfortable in their own skin, in their bodies, stopped settling for mediocre relationships, and left toxic ones behind.
How old a mothers work on herself impact her daughter in this way?
Because children learn through modeling. They learn what’s possible, what’s alright, what’s expected, what’s tolerable through watching their parents.
So when you begin to take a stand for a whole new kind of life not only does your life blossom and shift and open and expand into a whole new level of bliss and happiness…. but everyone around you benefits as well.
But Won’t Focusing On Me Mean Abandoning Everyone Else?
This idea has to do with codependency.
You see, one of the most terrifying things that women who come from Toxicity & Trauma deal with is the fear of what will happen if they start to focus on themselves.
They fear that everyone else will fall apart. That things will crumble into chaos. That those who they were once spending so much time caretaking will descend into addictions, crappy decisions, or worse.
But what really happens when these women really finally start to focus on themselves is that they see the lives of those around them improve as well.
You could call it improvement through osmosis. Good vibes. Or even just “learning through observation”.
No matter what you call it, when
Check out more tips on how to live a “hell yes” life, how to drop the Toxicity & Trauma conditioning from the past, and evolve into the true you by signing up for my free book in the box below.