I deeply understand what it’s like to be so afraid of being yourself that you tuck yourself away into self-protection. Where you refuse to show everyone all of you for fear that they won’t get it. I understand it because I’ve lived it.
When It Feels Like A Threat to Be You
I’ve lived in that place where it’s a threat to be all of me. A threat to live fully from my heart, and instead choosing to tuck it away so deep inside. Thinking that this will save me from being hurt by the rejection of others.
I’ve been in that place where I feel that self-protection trumps everything. That putting up walls is more important than building bridges.
But here’s the thing about living from a place of self-protection.
Self-Protection Won’t Give You:
You will never get what you want.
You’ll never feel free if you’re set up in a prison of your own need to be “safe”.
You’ll never feel loved or be able to truly love others if you’re always walled into a feeling that “other people will hurt me”.
You’ll never take the risks which are vulnerable and hard and might hurt but WILL lead you to the biggest and best results you’ve ever imagined.
The Opposite Of Self-Protection:
The opposite of self-protection is not just being totally naively open and just taking whatever other people want to dump on you.
The opposite of self-protection is being open and discerning. Is having standards and trusting yourself to deal with it when other people don’t approve.
The opposite of self-protection is self-love.
Do You Truly Love Yourself?
Because when you’re living from a place of self-protection, you’re actually not living in a place of true self-love.
Because a part of you refuses to trust the world. Refuses to trust that you’re good enough. Refuses to trust that you’ll be okay. Refuses to trust YOU because you don’t really love you. Not fully. Not enough to say “here I am. All of me. And I love me enough that if you don’t accept me that’s fine.”
And if you’re just in self-protection you’re not even letting yourself have standards. You’re just taking what you think is “safe” to let through the walls of your heart. Instead of taking in what you really most deeply want.
It all comes down to deep and abiding self-love.