Key Takeaways:
- Success as an entrepreneur is inevitable if you persist through challenges and don’t give up. Resilience is critical.
- Obstacles and setbacks are not signs to quit but training grounds to build skills for the next level. View them as gifts.
- Entrepreneurship brings up personal issues to be healed. Confronting these leads to exponential growth.
- Don’t lose momentum. Maintain belief even when results aren’t there yet. Success comes after consistent investment of time and energy.
- Support can help you know your success is inevitable before it arrives. Keep your “train” moving and don’t quit right before the gold.
Hey. Hey. So today we are talking about the fact that your success is inevitable.
It is absolutely inevitable as long as you keep going. That’s the trick, my friends. So the big question that I have for you today is, do you have the resilience to keep going even when things go wrong, even when you hit the bumps in the road, even when you feel discouraged? So, do you have the courage, willingness and openness to keep going even when it feels challenging? This is probably the number one determiner of success of an entrepreneur, is can you and will you keep going, or do you feel like you’re going to quit when things get challenging and difficult? Because let’s be honest, shit’s always going to hit the fan.
Things are always going to go wrong. There’s always going to be an unexpected bill in the mail and your money stuff is going to come up. There’s always going to be a crappy employee that you have to let go.
There might be people saying no to you or saying your products or services are too expensive. There’s always going to be a hater on social media. And in fact, let’s be real honest here, the bigger you get, the more you’re going to encounter these things.
So as we go through our evolution as an entrepreneur, sometimes we see these challenges or these roadblocks or these things that are discouraging or challenging as problems. Well, it means I’m doing something wrong. Well, they’re not necessarily problems.
What they are is they’re a training ground. They’re a training ground for you to prepare yourself for your next level. They are essentially a sandbox that you are playing in so that you can prepare yourself.
You play in the sandbox and you build a sandcastle, and that prepares you to go build your castle in real life. I’m not saying that the beginning of entrepreneurship isn’t real life. What I’m saying is when we experience these things on a smaller level, like our first hater on social media, or whatever it might be, or our parents saying, who do you think you are to do that work? Or whatever it might be.
What we’re doing is we’re training ourselves, our nervous system, our stress response, our beliefs, who it is that we believe that we are, our leadership. We are training ourselves to be able to handle more of that because it’s inevitable that it will happen more when we step into more success and more income. I don’t say that to scare you at all.
I say that because I’m no bullshit and I’m just going to call it like it is. And I’m always going to tell you the truth, but also to help you recognize that these are gifts. These challenges are gifts.
They are not stop signs. They are not signs from the heavens that say we are not meant for this because there’s a hater on social media, or because our landing page isn’t converting the way we want it to, or because we are feeling super stressed out because nobody liked our recent social media post or whatever it is, or our launch didn’t go according to plan, or we didn’t make the income that we wanted this month. None of these things are signs to stop.
What they are is they are practice for your next level. Here’s a perfect example. Now imagine a baby that’s learning to walk.
That baby, when it’s learning to walk is like trying to figure out each and every aspect to it and failing spectacularly at every aspect of it. Right? That baby just standing up has fallen on its butt like 2000 times before it finally stands on its butt. I mean, stands on its legs, stands on its feet and is able to stand there without falling down.
That’s the first step in walking. That’s not even the whole shebang. Then that baby is going to try to take its first step like 2000 times and fall down.
And do we look at that baby and go, oh, it has failed at walking. That baby has failed at the walking and it shall never walk. This is a sign that that baby is not meant to walk, that that baby is not meant for walking.
Baby, just sit down. No walking for you. No, of course not.
It sounds absolutely ridiculous when I say it that way, right? Of course it does. What we do is we say this is part of the journey to walking, is you’re going to fall down 2000 times. You’re going to take your first step 2000 times before you take your actual first step.
It’s all part of the journey. And I’m not going to label you as a failure, and I’m not going to get discouraged that you’re never going to walk. And I’m not going to unpack my bags and feeling overwhelmed that this baby isn’t meant to walk.
What I’m going to do is go figure it out. Falling down is part of the process. That’s okay.
This is part of the training ground of you getting to walk. Your muscles will get stronger every time you try to take that first step until finally your leg muscles are strong enough to hold you in that first step. You can probably see pretty clearly how this is a direct analogy for you as an entrepreneur, how this is directly applicable to the journey you’ve been on, that even if you’ve taken steps, like done your first live launch that didn’t go according to plan and nobody signed up for your program, that you’re like, oh, crap.
It’s not a sign that you’re not meant for it. It’s just a sign that you’re strengthening your muscles and figuring things out and figuring out how to do things in a way that works for you. One of my favorite quotes is the only difference between those who are successful and those who are not is that those who are successful get up one more time, they stand up one more time.
It only takes getting up one more time to find success because that success happens on that last time, right? It’s like finding your keys. When you find your keys, you find your keys. When you find success with the program or the launch or the income goals or whatever, you find it.
You just have to get up, you just have to keep going. You just have to maintain that belief and that persistence and that sense that I can do this and that confidence that lasts you through the inevitable wobbles, the inevitable challenges, the inevitable falling on your baby butt because you don’t know how to walk yet. Because, let’s be real, being an entrepreneur brings up a lot of shit.
It brings up a lot of stuff internally. I believe that being an entrepreneur is probably one of the best personal development processes you can go through, because it’s going to bring up everything that needs to be healed. It’s going to bring up all that subconscious junk in your trunk, and if you have the courage to look at it, you’re going to grow so exponentially, you’re going to quantum leap every area of your life, because entrepreneurship will challenge you to confront it, will challenge you to address it, will challenge you to develop it, will challenge you to grow, which is amazing.
But if you don’t look at it from that perspective, it just feels like a big old pain in the ass. But it’s not. It’s a playground.
When you shift your perspective on challenges and you realize that these are not stop signs, these are not who you are. This is part of the inevitability of my success. I am being given these opportunities so that I can strengthen my nervous system, so that I can strengthen my being, so that I can strengthen my leadership, so that I can strengthen myself, so that I can be more resilient, so that I can bounce back faster, so that I can get the support that I need in order to be able to have the freaking rock solid mindset that says I am an empowered CEO and I am standing in my power, in my belief, in my trust, in my confidence, because I know I have this and I know my success is inevitable.
Woohoo. I got this. When you could stand in that energy, everything changes, obviously, right? But the problem is we quit.
We get discouraged. We take it as a sign. We sit back and we go into mopey land or we go into dissociation land, where we go on a Netflix binge or doom scroll.
Social media. Essentially what we do is we go into a stress response. Fight, flight, freeze or fawn, where we water ourselves down, where we run away from what we have to do in our business because we get overwhelmed by it.
Because we buy into the identity that I’m a failure. I don’t know what I’m doing, that this is too hard. We have all these limiting beliefs beneath the service that says I can’t figure this out instead of working on that mindset so that that foundation builds and holds the capacity for our inevitable success and our inevitable falling on our butt like the baby does over and over and over again.
Because you know, sure as shit that baby does not think I’m a failure. I’m never going to work this out. I’m never going to fall.
Because they are so driven to walk that they’re just going to keep trying. Baby doesn’t quit trying to learn to walk. They just keep going.
They keep going. So the goal isn’t for shit, not to hit the fan. It’s not for your launch to always go perfectly.
It’s not for you to never have a social media hater. It’s not for you to never have a bill in the mail that’s unexpected or an inconsistent income month. As much as we don’t want any of those things to happen, and we’re going to do everything possible, so none of those things ever happen.
The real skill is being resilient and being able to bounce back. The real skill is being able to not be taken down by the stress response, by your emotions, by your limiting beliefs. The real skill is not taking it on your back as an identity that this is who I am and realizing that this is just a moment that is teaching me something, a skill, for me to be able to do this better next time.
When you have that level of resilience, you are absolutely unstoppable. You are absolutely unstoppable. The problem is we’re just not taught this in school.
Don’t even get me started. On the school system, but I wish they would teach this in school. I wish that they would teach young women that as long as you keep your eye on your goal and you keep trying and you keep tweaking and you keep adjusting, you’re going to get there, but you’ve got to have the persistence to get there, you’ve got to have the resilience to get back up, and you got to have the goal, to be honest as well.
So this is when we have that internal motivation, this is when we feel that momentum that keeps going. One of my favorite analogies that I share a lot with my clients is we, as entrepreneurs, are like freight trains, right? When you’re trying to start that freight train from a standing stop, you know what I mean, from a stop position, it is really hard to get that train going. It takes a lot of energy, it takes a lot of time, it’s really slow.
And so it can feel like a lot of work. This is sometimes what it feels like when we’re starting our business. But it can also be what happens when people don’t have resilience and they tend to sort of quit when they hit setbacks.
What happens is the freight train starts to slow down, they lose focus, they lose momentum, they lose persistence, the freight train slows down, and then when they start to climb back out of their feelings again, or they climb back out of their being burdened or overwhelmed or not knowing what to do next, they feel like they’re starting all over again and things start to feel hard again. They feel like a lot of effort again and they’re like, oh, I just can’t do this again. This is too much.
Well, the problem isn’t that the business is too much. The problem is that the resilience wasn’t there that allowed the momentum of the freight train to stay there. Even if you felt a blip or a wobble or some discouragement or needed to take a break or whatever it was, you can maintain momentum and experience those things.
The problem is most people don’t maintain momentum. What they do is they sort of quit. What they do is they tell themselves, maybe I’m not meant for this.
What they do is their freight train slows down and then they have to effort their way, push their way, struggle their way, fight their way back to feeling motivated, inspired, on fire for things to feel easy. Because let’s be honest, once that freight train is going, it takes very little energy to keep it going. It takes very little energy to keep that train going the same speed.
And the same goes for you. Once we get your business going, and we get you going at a million miles an hour, and we get you on fire, and we get you feeling good. Even when you feel these wobbles, even when you feel these blips, even when shit hits the fan, you don’t feel discouraged, because you have that inner belief that your success is inevitable and you keep applying yourself.
Even if you downshift for a moment, you have not stopped the train that is you. So this is all about what it’s like when you know that you’re meant for this, even when the evidence isn’t there. Because this is another aspect of this.
The success is inevitable. This can happen. We get the wobbles when things go wrong.
But sometimes it happens at the very beginning as well. When we haven’t seen the results of our efforts yet, when we haven’t seen that first sale, or the first couple of sales come in, or where the first couple of months aren’t consistent yet, when we haven’t seen the evidence of what it is that we’re trying to create. This can also be when we get into that discouraged place, when we get into that feeling of, am I meant for this? When we wonder what it is that we’re doing, when those limiting beliefs pop up.
And this can be a super essential time to receive support on your journey so that you can have somebody who helps you hold the space for your inevitable success before it’s arrived yet. Because here’s the truth. Success is almost like a sonic boon behind a plane.
That sonic boom happens before we hear it. So you are investing all of this. You’re putting your heart, mind, body and soul into your business to see the success.
And that success is going to follow your investment in the time, the energy in the money, in the programs, in the VA, in the whatever it is, it’s not going to be there instantaneously. And so there’s a gap where what you have is belief. There is a gap where what you have is knowing your success is inevitable and to keep going and to keep putting that fuel in the freight train so that the momentum stays there.
And you don’t quit because you go, well, I don’t see the fruits of my labor yet, so I guess I’ll quit. It reminds me of that story from I think it’s in think and grow rich, the story of the guy who’s digging for gold, and he buys a plot of land in the California gold rush, and he goes and he digs for gold, and he digs and he digs and he digs and he doesn’t find any gold and he quits and he sells his plot of land to the bulldozer driver guy or whatever, and that guy goes and he gets a survey of the land and the surveyor says the gold is 3ft from where you stop digging. And so the guy who buys the bulldozer dude gets all the gold because it’s just three more feet.
But the first guy who started the project, had he just kept going, would have found that his success was inevitable as well. So it’s an example of a lot of times the fruits of our labor are just beyond our desire to quit, are just beyond that challenge, are just beyond that moment when we say, I don’t know, we just have to maintain and not quit and not see it as a sign and know that our success is able as long as we keep going. Because as long as you keep showing up, as long as you have the courage, openness and willingness to keep going, you’ll get there.
