Accomplishing That Goal Won’t Make You Happy

Accomplishing That Goal Won’t Make You Happy

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New Years Resolutions Won’t Change Who You Are

Whatever you feel TODAY will be how you feel once you get more money, a divine partner, losing 20 pounds, meditating every day, or moving to a new country.

It’s one of the biggest problems with depending on making a big change in order to change your life.

You decide “I’m going to change X!” and think that the way you feel in your life is magically going to change along with it. 

But nope. That’s just not how it works.

If you don’t feel worthy, happy, or satisfied now, none of those changes, leaps, or resolutions will change the way you feel.

You’ll end up feeling the exact same way, even after you make the change.

You must change the way you feel NOW before you get it. Before you leap. Before you accomplish that goal.

You’ll Still Feel The Same When You Achieve X

Otherwise you’re going to get into new situation, and still find yourself miserable and wondering

 “Why am I still unhappy?”

“Why am I dissatisfied when I have what I wanted?”

“Why didn’t X make me feel better!”

Or you’ll just move the goal posts and tell yourself that you need to accomplish some NEW goal in order to finally be happy. Some new horizon must be reached before you can finally be satisfied. 

 

“Once I have Y, then I can be content”

Happiness is An Inside Job

You see, contentment, happiness, joy, love, peace, worthiness, and comfort all come from a core place within you.

They aren’t suddenly born from having more stuff.

They aren’t suddenly created by having more money.

Your life doesn’t suddenly get perfect when you meet the love of your life.

You don’t fix everything by moving to a new town.

Whatever issues you bring INTO the situation will still be there when you do whatever it is you’ve convinced yourself you must do to be happy.

That situation, that accomplishment, that achievement, that money, that thing is NOT going to give it to you.

You’ve got to get happy with yourself or you’ll never be happy with anything.” – Click to Tweet

Achievement Doesn’t Create Happiness

Until you realize this. You will constantly be on the hamster wheel of trying to achieve in order to be happy.

And that is ass-backwards.

It’s time to be happy so that you can finally achieve.

It might sound weird. But once you become happy, achievement becomes so much easier.

It’s so much easier to create from a place of inspiration and flow.

From a place of fulfillment and joy.

From a place of knowing that you have everything you need, and you’ve always had everything you need. 

You see, you can’t seek happiness externally because it’s not dependent on what you have, it’s only dependent on what’s going on inside.

And your insides aren’t magically going to change when you get that money, that car, that partner, or that job.

 

You’ve got to get happy with yourself or you’ll never be happy with anything.

 

Radical self-acceptance and self-trust are the topics we’ll be talking about in depth in The Abundance Revolution over the next few months.

If you’ve always changed by trying to criticize and put yourself down, yet felt like crap about it, I can show you another way.

It’s changing from a place of deep love and embracing all that you are.

No more self-doubt.

No more squeezing yourself into a tiny little package to make other people more comfortable.

No more trying to be what other people want you to be.

Just free untamed expression of exactly who you are.

Without guilt. Without shame. Without judgment.

This is the key to everything.

Join us now in The Abundance Revolution to learn how. 

If you’re ready for a ‘hell yes‘ life, join The Abundance Revolution TODAY!

Anxiety. Fear. Playing Small. Stuckness.

You’re living in a prison of your own making.

It’s time to change that forever.

 

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Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

Ask Dr Ash – Loving Without A Response?

Ask Dr Ash – Loving Without A Response?

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What if you’re the one reaching out to someone with love and they never reach back?

DR. ASH

Then that’s about them, not about you. And you let them go on their way.

Otherwise, you’ll always be holding back love because you fear it won’t be returned. Which means you’re always standing in fear.

And you’re actually trying to control others with your love (think about it. If you withhold love only until you know it will be met how you want it to be met. You’re in a controlling state where you’re using love to manipulate someone to get what you want).

If we fearlessly contribute love to the world and then LET GO and let the other person do what they will. Not trying to control their responses. Not waiting around for them to do, think, or feel what we want.

Then you are contributing love in your full authenticity and self-respect. Then you are fully empowered and standing in our most divine embodied self. No fear. No shame. No guilt. Just pure radiating loving presence.

“If we fearlessly contribute love to the world and then LET GO and let the other person do what they will, then you are contributing love in your full authenticity and self-respect. You are fully empowered and standing in your most divine embodied self.” – Click to Tweet

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Anxiety. Fear. Playing Small. Stuckness.

You’re living in a prison of your own making.

It’s time to change that forever.

 

Download NOW for FREE!

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

Ask Dr. Ash – Loving The Takers in Life?

Ask Dr. Ash – Loving The Takers in Life?

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How do we show up from a loving place when other people have negative energy? When they’re takers and I don’t really want to be around them? I tend to swing between being distant and cold to being close and letting them walk all over me.

DR. ASH

So here’s the thing. As we approach our divine selves more and more we get more and more filled with unconditional love. Unconditional means people don’t have to earn it, people don’t have to be good people. We love them in virtue of just existing. For everyone. This can be difficult when we’re still clogged up with the feeling that we withdraw love when people hurt us or are assy. And our culture teaches us to do this. Withdraw love when others hurt us. But what if instead, we considered that our true nature is love. We are made of love. We can pour love on everyone at all times WHILE NOT PUTTING UP WITH ANY SHIT.

Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to have them in your life, doesn’t mean you approve of them and their actions, doesn’t mean you have to be around them, and most certainly doesn’t mean you have to help them.

Asking yourself “what would love do” and then creating distance if you need it… even though you love the person. Love would not be short and snippy with people. But it would say “I can’t have an active relationship with you if you’re going to be like this.”

Boundaries are ultimately loving things that help you to create MORE intimacy and love in the right relationships.

“Boundaries are ultimately loving things that help you to create MORE intimacy and love in the right relationships.” – Click to Tweet

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Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

You are the Beloved You’ve Been Waiting For

You are the Beloved You’ve Been Waiting For

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All You Need Is You

Being your own best friend. Your own beloved.

Is one of the most important and powerful things you can ever do for yourself.

Because as you anchor into the knowing that you are SO loved by YOU then the NEED for others fades.

You Become Whole

You still want others and desire them. But only those who treat you with the same care, compassion, and value with which you treat yourself.

The neediness fades away from relationships, from your money story, from business, from every aspect of your life.

And you become whole with a sense of enoughness and worthiness that can never, ever be taken from you.

No matter what other people think.

You see, when you’re sitting around waiting for someone else to give you the love you crave, you’re sitting in a fundementally disempowered place that puts feeling good in the hands of others.

“I am the beloved I’ve been waiting for my entire life.” – Click to Tweet

The Ultra-Powerful Point In Your Personal Evolution

When you can finally look yourself in the eye and say:

 “You are the beloved I’ve been waiting for.”

  “You are my best friend.”

  “You are my trusted confidant.”

  “I trust you.”

  “I love you.”

  “You matter.”

  “And you’ve always been enough.”

And truly, deeply believe it.

You’ve come to the ultra-powerful point in your personal evolution where you stop settling for less. Where you drop the need for others approval. Where no one and no thing can ever determine your worthiness, your value, your enoughness ever again.

Because you’ve carved that shit out in stone on the pages of your heart.

You are the Beloved

Say it with me: “I am the beloved I’ve been waiting for my entire life.”

Sing it, sister!

Because YOU ARE THE BELOVED!!!

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If you want epic and loving support, compassionate guidance, and gentle and nurturing pants kicking on your journey to a relationship with yourself that feels like you finally know down to your bones that YOU are the beloved, then sign up for an insight session below.

I have openings in both my low-cost membership (that includes group coaching, trainings, and psychic guidance and loads more for the cost of a cup of coffee per day).

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If you’re interested, book a free insight session below with me.

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

Stop Protecting Those Who Failed to Protect You

Stop Protecting Those Who Failed to Protect You

For many years I have held myself back from naming many of the things that have happened to me.

In a conditioned belief that it was my job to protect those who didn’t protect me.

But I see now that I have cheated not only myself but my clients and those I impact, out of fear of speaking the truth.

Believing You Must Keep Silent

When you come from a background where you were abused, bullied, or made to feel like a terrible person you often carry a secret responsibility to “quietly hold the family secrets”.

So you silence yourself for fear of shaming or guilting others.

Not realizing that you’re actually silencing and shaming yourself.

There’s No Need to Hide

Be honest with yourself. Share your vulnerable heart. Stand up and own what happened in the past.

It does not define you.

It defines them.

There’s no need to hide it anymore.

It’s not your duty to protect them.

It’s time for YOU first now.

Because self-first is not self-ish

“Because self-first is not selfish.” – Click to Tweet

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. I’m powerfully psychic and have over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

This is the Opposite of Self-Protection

This is the Opposite of Self-Protection

I deeply understand what it’s like to be so afraid of being yourself that you tuck yourself away into self-protection. Where you refuse to show everyone all of you for fear that they won’t get it. I understand it because I’ve lived it.

 

When It Feels Like A Threat to Be You

I’ve lived in that place where it’s a threat to be all of me. A threat to live fully from my heart, and instead choosing to tuck it away so deep inside. Thinking that this will save me from being hurt by the rejection of others.

I’ve been in that place where I feel that self-protection trumps everything. That putting up walls is more important than building bridges.

But here’s the thing about living from a place of self-protection.

Self-Protection Won’t Give You:

You will never get what you want.

You’ll never feel free if you’re set up in a prison of your own need to be “safe”.

You’ll never feel loved or be able to truly love others if you’re always walled into a feeling that “other people will hurt me”.

You’ll never take the risks which are vulnerable and hard and might hurt but WILL lead you to the biggest and best results you’ve ever imagined.

The Opposite Of Self-Protection:

The opposite of self-protection is not just being totally naively open and just taking whatever other people want to dump on you.

The opposite of self-protection is being open and discerning. Is having standards and trusting yourself to deal with it when other people don’t approve.

The opposite of self-protection is self-love.

Do You Truly Love Yourself?

Because when you’re living from a place of self-protection, you’re actually not living in a place of true self-love.

Because a part of you refuses to trust the world. Refuses to trust that you’re good enough. Refuses to trust that you’ll be okay. Refuses to trust YOU because you don’t really love you. Not fully. Not enough to say “here I am. All of me. And I love me enough that if you don’t accept me that’s fine.”

 

“Your self-love determines your standards. Your standards determine your reality.” – Click to Tweet

 

And if you’re just in self-protection you’re not even letting yourself have standards. You’re just taking what you think is “safe” to let through the walls of your heart. Instead of taking in what you really most deeply want.

It all comes down to deep and abiding self-love.

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. I’m powerfully psychic and have over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.