Key Takeaways:
- Entering into the energy of “it’s a done deal” is about true belief and confidence, not faking it till you make it. Faking it creates inner tension and stress.
- Get your body and nervous system relaxed and on board so your subconscious mind doesn’t resist the goal as a “stressor”.
- True belief and confidence exist in the present moment, not someday in the future. Know you’ve got this no matter what.
- It’s normal to have some self-doubt or fear, just don’t get stuck there. Keep moving forward with belief.
- When you fully believe in yourself and your offer, you become a “bonfire” that attracts your perfect clients magnetically.
Hey. Hey. So today we’re talking about being in the energy and excitement of this is such a done deal for me every single day as a habit.
And how powerfully this can shift your relationship with money, your relationship with success, your relationship with your business, all the goody good things in your life. So let’s talk a bit more about the energy of excitement. And this is a done deal.
We hear a lot about this in the realm of personal development, about entering into the energy of this is done. I have this already. Right.
And a lot of people misunderstand what this is all about. They believe entering into the energy of it’s a done deal means the old fake it till you make it thing. You pretend you have the thing, and then somehow that makes you have the thing.
Sorry, that’s just not really how this stuff works. Because let’s be honest, when you fake it, when you pretend that you have a thing, it doesn’t feel very good. It doesn’t feel authentic.
It doesn’t actually feel real. It feels far away. It feels like putting on a mask.
It feels like putting on something that’s not true. Part of this is why things like affirmations don’t really work for a lot of people. When they say things like, I am a money magnet, but they don’t really believe it, what happens is it creates this inner sense of tension and this inner sense of cognitive dissonance, where you’ve got one thing that you’re saying, I’m a money magnet, and you don’t believe it.
Inside, your insides are going, I am not a money magnet. And those two things are in conflict with one another. The cognitive dissonance basically says, what’s going on inside of me is separate, is different from what it is that I’m saying.
So which one do you think is going to win out? The one that’s going on inside of you. Now, this happens with your nervous system as well. When you’ve got something inside of you that says, this isn’t actually true, whether it’s I’m a money magnet or this is a done deal, I’ve got a million dollar business, or I’ve got the relationship I want.
Whatever it is, when you are feeling in your physical body that this is untrue because it actually brings up a stress response, what happens is that that stress response in your physical body actually ends up overriding the thoughts that you’re creating about what it is that you desire. So the thoughts that you’re creating about, like, I’m a money magnet or this is a done deal. This is so my reality, or whatever it is.
Your subconscious mind, through the tension in your body, is essentially calling bullshit on you and saying, oh, we don’t believe this. We don’t believe this. And so what the heck do you actually do? Right? What the heck do you actually do when your body is all tense, is stressed, is, like, reactionary to this thing that you’re saying, but you know that you need to enter into the energy of, this is a done deal.
This is inevitable. I’ve got this. In order to succeed, what the heck do you do when those two things seem so radically different? Right.
Well, the first thing you do is you get your body, your stress response, and your nervous system on board so that you’re no longer giving your brain, your subconscious brain feedback. That this is a stressful, dangerous thing that I can’t deal with or that I don’t believe. When you can get into that relaxed place physically, when you can get into that feeling of not being stressed or overwhelmed by the thing, whether it’s.
It’s a done deal or I’m on a money magnet or whatever, then you’ve set the foundation to be able to step into that energy, and I’ll talk more about that in a minute. So what I mean by this is just to give you a quick primer, if you’ve never heard me talk about this before, your subconscious mind evolved for a reason. Your subconscious mind evolved to protect you from the lion that is chasing you down, about to kill you.
Problem is, things aren’t trying to kill us anymore. But the subconscious mind reads any stressor as something’s going to try to kill me. The subconscious mind is trying to keep you alive.
So it’s going to try to keep you safe from whatever’s stressful. So if you say to yourself, I’m going to make doesn’t believe it, your body is going to be giving your brain signals that this is a stressor, because 80% of the nerve fibers go from your body to your brain, 20% go from your brain to your body in this circumstance. And so your body’s going to be giving your brain signals that this is a stressor, and then your subconscious brain will go, whoa, nellie.
We’re going to protect her from that and hold you back from achieving it. And even if you just feel like what you’re saying is know, like, this is inevitable for me, but you don’t really believe it, guess what that brings up in your body stress. That brings up a sense of contraction.
It brings up a sense of constriction. And so this is how the nervous system and your body play a role in terms of stepping into this done deal energy. So let’s move on from that and talk about what do you do instead? So this done deal energy, this energy of excitement, right? We can actually build this up every day as a habit.
The first thing we do is we start with the nervous system. We start with coming from this place of relaxation, ease and calm. When it comes to money, when it comes to our goals, when it comes to whatever it is that we’re trying to manifest and create in our lives.
The essential piece that we have to understand here is that what we’re talking about with done deal energy, like I said, isn’t fake it till you make it. It’s about belief and confidence, true belief and confidence, belief and confidence that goes down to your toes where you’re like, this is truly inevitable. This isn’t just some fantasy, this isn’t just some fairy tale.
This isn’t just crossing my fingers or wishing on a star or hoping. I will probably do a whole podcast on all of those things, how the word hope ends up screwing us. Because hope always exists in the future.
It doesn’t exist here now. Because here’s the thing. Belief and confidence exist here in the present moment.
You being the person who has the thing, you being the person that this is a done deal for, exists here in this present moment. Not later, not tomorrow, not next week, right now. And so when we claim that through language, we powerfully assert our belief, our confidence, our self trust, in the fact that this is inevitable for us, in the fact that this is a done deal, in the fact that I got this.
And you know you do, when you can step into that powerful present moment and into your power, that’s only available to you in the present moment. So anyway, back to what I was saying, knowing that you got this, no matter what, is the core of that confidence and of that belief, I like to think of the story of the Wright brothers. The Wright brothers, they invented the first airplane, right? Well, guess how freaking crazy it was for two dudes on a beach to be putting this flappy, sticky thing, trying to put it in the air and thinking they could fly when nobody ever did before.
That had to seem just absolutely gonzo crazy. Like, you dudes are mentally ill. What the heck are you doing? In fact, the story goes that their father was a preacher or a pastor and told them basically to quit because was very concerned for them and thought that this was absolutely nuts.
And if you looked at it from the outside, you probably would think it’s absolutely nuts. Yet they persisted. They kept going.
Why? Because they had that belief, because they had that confidence, and because they had that excitement every day that they were going to figure it out, that this was a done deal for them, and that they were just going to keep trying until they unlocked the key, unlocked the door of flight. That, my friends, is true belief, confidence, and that done deal energy. That’s not the we’re going to fake it till we’ll make it and pretend we have a plane that works.
That’s not hoping that this plane works, that’s not wishing that it does. That’s saying, we’re going to figure this out no matter what happens. We got this.
Woo. Yes. And that’s the energy.
I want you to be able to enter into your business, your finances, your relationships, your life with. Because when you do, your success becomes inevitable. Because things like persistence happen easy.
Things like momentum are maintained. Things like motivation are easy to connect with. Things like passion are so easy to feel, and your business begins to feel more fun and playful and free and full of pleasure and delight and all of that stuff.
So the important thing to be clear here about, because this is another one of those myths in the personal development space, is entering into the energy of it’s a done deal. And that excitement every day isn’t about some Pollyanna bullshit, either. It’s not about having to be positive all the time and never having the wobbles and never having a moment of self doubt or never having a little bit of fear come up.
No fear. A little bit of self doubt, the wobbles, getting discouraged, all of those things are normal. I want you guys to realize those things are normal.
The thing that is detrimental is when we get stuck there, when we get set back by having those feelings and experiences, when we listen to those things more than we listen to the truth of who and what we are and what we’re here to create. So it’s about knowing deep down your truth that this is inevitable as long as I keep going. And so I can move through disappointment, I can move through the wobbles, I can move through being low energy for a while.
I can take a break. I can do the things that I need to do. I don’t have to be perfect.
I don’t have to have this all figured out all the time. I don’t have to always be Pollyanna positive. What I need is just to have that self trust and that belief and that confidence that everything’s figureoutable and that I will figure it out and that this is a done deal.
As long as I keep going and as long as I have that, then any bumps along the way, they’re navigable, I can navigate them, I can overcome them, I can deal with it. I got this, right? That is the done deal energy. I have got this.
So making that success, that income, that goal, whatever it is that you’re achieving, feel safe to your nervous system. Feel relaxing, feel like something that’s achievable, feel like something you actually believe in. And it isn’t like a pair of pants that’s two sizes too small that you’re walking around town in one.
In using the body and the physical practices to build this each and every day, to feel filled with that sense of excitement and passion. And this is something that I do with my clients in all of my programs, but particularly my program, the Embodied Wealth Lab, which we’re about to start on March 11. But also really understanding that self trust and that belief exists in a space where I’m allowed to have some doubt.
I just don’t unpack my bags there. I just don’t live there. I just allow those things to breeze through, like the clouds in the sky that are moving along and allow them to exist instead of fighting them all the time.
So when I get my body on board, I allow space for all of my experience. Then I enter into that sense of belief and self trust and confidence and excitement, that this is a done deal every single day. And how do you do that? As a habit, you can do things like really envisioning yourself in the moment that you have achieved the goals that you have achieved.
Visualization by itself is a tool that sometimes doesn’t work. But when you use it in conjunction with calming your nervous system and feeling entitled to all of your emotions and not pushing them off the table and moving through the limiting beliefs that tell you that this is too hard or it’s going to come a sacrifice, then what happens is it all comes together. So there are so many people out there who really want what you have to offer, who really need you to show up.
When you come from that certainty that your success is already done, that is inevitable, that you’re going to find the perfect people to fit with your programs and your services. When you feel that certainty in your bones, here’s where the magic happens. The spicy magic that I like to say.
The magic is that people can feel it. People are only as certain in what it is that you are selling as you are certain in it yourself. So when you feel like this is so freaking awesome, of course people want it.
People feel that. They feel that energy, they feel that certainty, they feel that belief, they feel that power, they feel that confidence, and they want to be a part of it. And so when you can enter into that power, when you can enter into that perspective, guess what happens? You are then empowered to be authentic, act authentically, because that’s who you are.
You feel confident and in belief about what it is that you’re selling and what it is that you’re doing there in the world and who you are. And you feel freaking worthy of more money and more success and all of the beautiful things that you desire. And you’re like, hell, yeah.
And you actually believe it. And it’s not just something you’re saying because your body is on board as well. That is when you feel unleashed in your authenticity and you show up powerfully and you have a voice that people want to listen to.
And you become the bonfire in your business and in your life. What I mean by the bonfire is that when you light a bonfire in the middle of the forest, everyone comes and gathers round it. The bonfire doesn’t have to search for an audience.
The bonfire is magnetic, naturally, just like you are. So when you can enter in from this energy, how will that shift every single thing in your business, how will that shift every single thing in your life? How will that shift the standards you put up, the boundaries you set up, how will that shift how you serve your clients? How will that shift? How you post on social media, how will that shift? How you talk about your products and services, how will that shift? Making offers, giving a call to action at the end of your emails, how will that shift? Saying your prices for your products and services, it shifts everything because you believe in you. I know.
I’m a jingle singer at heart. Let’s be honest. You are so valuable.
What you have to give and bring to this world is so valuable. You just have to remove all of the crap, the subconscious junk in your trunk that’s gotten in the way of you being able to show up and show the world the inevitability of your success, the done deal of what it is that your goals are, and the excitement and the passion and the energy of the confidence and belief that what you have and who you are is so worthy and so amazing and so awesome, and that is your truth.
