Swing for a Home Run Every Time
In a session recently, I was talking to one of my favorite clients about holding back. She had been holding herself back from posting on Facebook about her business because she didn’t want to annoy people. We talked about how we can’t be afraid to fail every time we go up to bat. Whether that “at bat” is your business, a Facebook post, a new relationship, being your goofy-assed self, or living your life laughing so hard that other people look at you sideways. You see, if you’re afraid to fail every time, you’re going to stop yourself from being able to hit a home run.
Put Your All Into Each Swing
Have you ever noticed, in baseball, that home run hitters tend to be intense. They put their ALL into each swing. Each swing is for the bleachers. Each swing is make or break. Home run or strike out – it doesn’t matter. Because each time they go up to bat – they swing as though they ARE going to hit a home run. No playing it safe and bunting. Or letting the pitcher hit them to “just get on base”. They’re going for it. Each and every time.
Sometimes You Strike Out
And many times those home run hitters strike out. But other times they hit home runs. But every single time they swing that dang bat like their guts are going to fall out on the floor if they don’t go for it. And who do we remember? The home run hitters. Not the “consistently play-it-safers.” And this is true of life. If you meet a fabulous new person you’d like to get to know, what are you possibly losing by saying “hey, let’s grab coffee!” And yet, so many people back off because they’re afraid of rejection. Or they stop themselves from being open and vulnerable in a relationship because they fear that “it might not work out.” But, what’s the possible outcome of this type of strategy?
What’s the Outcome If You Swing for the Bleachers?
The only thing to gain by not going full out is to temper your losses. To try to protect yourself from the loss of not getting what you want. And yet, the funny thing is – if you don’t go for what you want – you’ll never GET what you want.
- You’ll never get the date.
- You’ll never get the depth of intimacy you desire.
- You’ll never get that job.
- You’ll never publish that best-seller.
- You’ll never travel the world.
What’s the possible outcome of swinging for the bleachers? One of two things will happen:
- You’ll get the date.
- Or they’ll say “no”
Either way, you know where you stand. And you’ll know you gave it your shot. Getting closer and deeper and more intimate with someone who is important to you or them pulling back and making it clear that this wasn’t what they wanted to begin with – either way you KNOW. Getting the job of your dreams, or finding out that you’re missing a key skill set in order to be a perfect match for that job are both great outcomes. Either way you’ll KNOW!
Persist or Shift
Same with your business. If you’re out there talking to people (whether in person or on Facebook) and they don’t respond. And you pull back and say “well, they don’t want to hear it.” What’s the possible outcome? You don’t make any money. lol. What’s the possible outcome of persisting? Or just shifting your strategy (rather than pulling in and stopping)? People do start responding. You make more money. You get what you wanted. ~ or ~ People don’t respond, unfriend you, get annoyed and then well, they don’t have to listen to your posts about your biz anymore. You get what you wanted (more people on your friend’s list who DO want to listen to what you have to say). You are NOT going to make money by quitting when other people aren’t interested. You are NOT going to make money by stopping yourself short of telling people how amazing your services are. All you’ll be doing is building up a pile of regrets based on the premise of “I wish I had expressed myself more”. Just like you are NOT going to get closer and deeper and more intimate relationships by holding yourself back and “playing it safe.” And you’re not going to get to travel the world by constantly making excuses for why “now’s not the right time” or why “it’s just not a good idea”.
Go Full Out or Risk A Life of Regret
So swing for the bleachers, dear ones. Every time. Go full out. In every area of your life. Run toward your dreams like your hair is on fire. Like you have nothing to lose!! Go out there like it’s going to be the most EPIC and rewarding and amazing thing EVER. And if it’s not? You can totally deal with that. Because the risk of NOT swinging with everything you’ve got is far greater than the risks of doing it.
What Are You Willing to Risk?
The choice is yours on what you risk:
If you dare to go for what you really want you might get:
Rejection OR get everything you’ve ever wanted.
~ THE ALTERNATIVE ~
If you hold yourself back from going after your dreams and expressing yourself deeply you might get:
Self-protection AND a life of regret for never having taken the risk to live the life of your dreams.
Yeah. The answer is obvious to me too.