You are the Beloved You’ve Been Waiting For

You are the Beloved You’ve Been Waiting For

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All You Need Is You

Being your own best friend. Your own beloved.

Is one of the most important and powerful things you can ever do for yourself.

Because as you anchor into the knowing that you are SO loved by YOU then the NEED for others fades.

You Become Whole

You still want others and desire them. But only those who treat you with the same care, compassion, and value with which you treat yourself.

The neediness fades away from relationships, from your money story, from business, from every aspect of your life.

And you become whole with a sense of enoughness and worthiness that can never, ever be taken from you.

No matter what other people think.

You see, when you’re sitting around waiting for someone else to give you the love you crave, you’re sitting in a fundementally disempowered place that puts feeling good in the hands of others.

“I am the beloved I’ve been waiting for my entire life.” – Click to Tweet

The Ultra-Powerful Point In Your Personal Evolution

When you can finally look yourself in the eye and say:

 “You are the beloved I’ve been waiting for.”

  “You are my best friend.”

  “You are my trusted confidant.”

  “I trust you.”

  “I love you.”

  “You matter.”

  “And you’ve always been enough.”

And truly, deeply believe it.

You’ve come to the ultra-powerful point in your personal evolution where you stop settling for less. Where you drop the need for others approval. Where no one and no thing can ever determine your worthiness, your value, your enoughness ever again.

Because you’ve carved that shit out in stone on the pages of your heart.

You are the Beloved

Say it with me: “I am the beloved I’ve been waiting for my entire life.”

Sing it, sister!

Because YOU ARE THE BELOVED!!!

Supported And Loved

If you want epic and loving support, compassionate guidance, and gentle and nurturing pants kicking on your journey to a relationship with yourself that feels like you finally know down to your bones that YOU are the beloved, then sign up for an insight session below.

I have openings in both my low-cost membership (that includes group coaching, trainings, and psychic guidance and loads more for the cost of a cup of coffee per day).

OR, if you prefer personalized light-speed results, I have space in my 1:1 mentorship for you if you’re ready to own “I am the one.”

If you’re interested, book a free insight session below with me.

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

What Happens When You Ask for Everything You Need

What Happens When You Ask for Everything You Need

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I Never Asked For My Needs To Be Met

Before I left my ex-fiance there was about a 6-month period where I decided “I’m going to ask for everything I need. And it’s either going to make or break us.”

I knew I was unhappy.

Restless.

Boxed in and feeling like a caged bird.

I didn’t feel listened to. Or seen. And felt like I was always “too much”.

But as I changed my reality of how I felt about myself, I realized that I could no longer exist in a relationship where I tempered my desires to make someone else more comfortable.

Asking For Every Single Thing I Needed

So I started asking for every single thing I needed.

Asking for our needs to be met can be a revolutionary act.

And I knew it would make us or break us.

Well, it ended up breaking us up.

And damn am I thankful that my ex had the ability to let me go when he saw that he could not rise to meet me in my new reality.

Upsetting the Balance

You see, relationships are like all biological systems – they exist in an equilibrium.

They exist at a certain state until one person in the relationship changes, upsetting that equilibrium, or balance.

Once the equilibrium is upset there are only three things that can happen:

 Either the person who changes returns to their original way of doing things.

 The entire system (all of the other relationships) rise to meet the person at their new reality.

 Or, if the person is unwilling to return to their old way of being, and the system will not change to adapt to the new way of doing things, then often the system (relationship) may break down.

“As you improve your life, your choices, your mindset, your ways of doing things you may find some tug and pull from your relationships. People trying to bring you back into your old way of being. Because that’s where they’re comfortable with you.” – Click to Tweet

Pulling You Back to the Way You Were

As you improve your life, your choices, your mindset, your ways of doing things you may find some tug and pull from your relationships.

People trying to bring you back into your old way of being. Becuase that’s where they’re comfortable with you.

You may find people questioning your life choices, giving you the crazy side-eye, implying that you think you’re “better than them”, or making fun of the changes and shifts you’ve made.

Generally, people don’t like change. So they’ll do whatever it takes to keep you exactly as you’ve always been.

You Must Make a Choice

Persist in your new reality and let the relationships do what they need to do (whether that means getting stronger or falling apart)

Or dive back into the old way of being.

The decision is up to you.

But really, the decision is obvious.

Because once you wake up, you can’t fully go back so sleep again.

You can’t fully ignore those things which are no longer aligned with your new higher state of being.

You can’t lull yourself into believing that you’re living as your highest and best self when you feel like your arms are tied around your back.

Navigating the Tricky Waters

If you want help navigating the tricky waters of changing the way you feel about yourself.

Of moving to a new level despite feeling that there are old beliefs, relationships, and conditioned beliefs which are holding you back.

And FREEING yourself once and for all then let’s connect.

I have something available for everyone at every price point and degree of personalized care.

Let’s build you the strength that will allow you to say:

“This is me. This is my life. I deserve better. And I’m not settling anymore. Because I LOVE myself. And I’m worth it!”

Just click the button below and let’s talk about making this your new reality in one of my programs.

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

Give It Your All (Or Face Living With Regrets)

Give It Your All (Or Face Living With Regrets)

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Swing for a Home Run Every Time

In a session recently, I was talking to one of my favorite clients about holding back. She had been holding herself back from posting on Facebook about her business because she didn’t want to annoy people. We talked about how we can’t be afraid to fail every time we go up to bat. Whether that “at bat” is your business, a Facebook post, a new relationship, being your goofy-assed self, or living your life laughing so hard that other people look at you sideways. You see, if you’re afraid to fail every time, you’re going to stop yourself from being able to hit a home run.

Put Your All Into Each Swing

Have you ever noticed, in baseball, that home run hitters tend to be intense. They put their ALL into each swing. Each swing is for the bleachers. Each swing is make or break. Home run or strike out – it doesn’t matter. Because each time they go up to bat – they swing as though they ARE going to hit a home run. No playing it safe and bunting. Or letting the pitcher hit them to “just get on base”. They’re going for it. Each and every time.

Sometimes You Strike Out

And many times those home run hitters strike out. But other times they hit home runs. But every single time they swing that dang bat like their guts are going to fall out on the floor if they don’t go for it. And who do we remember? The home run hitters. Not the “consistently play-it-safers.” And this is true of life. If you meet a fabulous new person you’d like to get to know, what are you possibly losing by saying “hey, let’s grab coffee!” And yet, so many people back off because they’re afraid of rejection. Or they stop themselves from being open and vulnerable in a relationship because they fear that “it might not work out.” But, what’s the possible outcome of this type of strategy?

“In every area of your life go full out.” – Click to Tweet

What’s the Outcome If You Swing for the Bleachers?

The only thing to gain by not going full out is to temper your losses. To try to protect yourself from the loss of not getting what you want. And yet, the funny thing is – if you don’t go for what you want – you’ll never GET what you want. 

  • You’ll never get the date.
  • You’ll never get the depth of intimacy you desire.
  • You’ll never get that job.
  • You’ll never publish that best-seller.
  • You’ll never travel the world.

What’s the possible outcome of swinging for the bleachers? One of two things will happen:

  • You’ll get the date.
  • Or they’ll say “no”

Either way, you know where you stand. And you’ll know you gave it your shot. Getting closer and deeper and more intimate with someone who is important to you or them pulling back and making it clear that this wasn’t what they wanted to begin with – either way you KNOW. Getting the job of your dreams, or finding out that you’re missing a key skill set in order to be a perfect match for that job are both great outcomes. Either way you’ll KNOW!

Persist or Shift

Same with your business. If you’re out there talking to people (whether in person or on Facebook) and they don’t respond. And you pull back and say “well, they don’t want to hear it.” What’s the possible outcome? You don’t make any money. lol. What’s the possible outcome of persisting? Or just shifting your strategy (rather than pulling in and stopping)? People do start responding. You make more money. You get what you wanted. ~ or ~ People don’t respond, unfriend you, get annoyed and then well, they don’t have to listen to your posts about your biz anymore. You get what you wanted (more people on your friend’s list who DO want to listen to what you have to say). You are NOT going to make money by quitting when other people aren’t interested. You are NOT going to make money by stopping yourself short of telling people how amazing your services are. All you’ll be doing is building up a pile of regrets based on the premise of “I wish I had expressed myself more”. Just like you are NOT going to get closer and deeper and more intimate relationships by holding yourself back and “playing it safe.” And you’re not going to get to travel the world by constantly making excuses for why “now’s not the right time” or why “it’s just not a good idea”.

Go Full Out or Risk A Life of Regret

So swing for the bleachers, dear ones. Every time. Go full out. In every area of your life. Run toward your dreams like your hair is on fire. Like you have nothing to lose!! Go out there like it’s going to be the most EPIC and rewarding and amazing thing EVER. And if it’s not? You can totally deal with that. Because the risk of NOT swinging with everything you’ve got is far greater than the risks of doing it.

What Are You Willing to Risk?

The choice is yours on what you risk:

   If you dare to go for what you really want you might get:

Rejection OR get everything you’ve ever wanted.

 

~ THE ALTERNATIVE ~

 

  If you hold yourself back from going after your dreams and expressing yourself deeply you might get:

Self-protection AND a life of regret for never having taken the risk to live the life of your dreams.

 

Yeah. The answer is obvious to me too.

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

How Your Shadow Keeps Saying “This is Too Hard”

How Your Shadow Keeps Saying “This is Too Hard”

Lack of progress and clarity is usually due to resistance.

Like a bungee cord around your waist, that resistance isn’t going to let you get anywhere. It keeps pulling you back and you end up asking yourself “what’s going on? Why is this so hard!?”

The real bummer is that most people use the fact that it’s hard as a reason to quit. They figure “if it’s this hard, I must not be meant to do it.

And boy is that dead wrong.

You see, resistance arises when you get out of your comfort zone. When you do things you’ve never done before. When you break through subconscious limits you’ve had around what you’ve felt is possible for you.

And here’s the real kicker…

Resistance is usually about you avoiding your shadow.

Your shadow is that part of you that you fear could come out and take over if you’re not careful.

When you fear that your shadow may take over, you’re going to do anything possible to avoid it. And that means that you’re going to subconsciously self-sabotage yourself. Putting up hurdles to your success. And making it hard on yourself. 

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What You Fear About Your Shadow

You may fear:

  • “Being the know it all”
  • “Being the center of attention”
  • “Being the bitch”
  • “Being abrasive”
  • “Being selfish”

You fear being her so much that you avoid doing anything which could bring her out. So you use subconscious techniques to keep you in the same place.

And so, you stay in “This is Hard”

  • So you stay stuck.
  • You procrastinate.
  • You lack clarity about what you really want.
  • You stay paralyzed.
  • You feel everything must be perfect
  • You give up when things aren’t “easy”
  • You feel intense resistance to becoming the truest version of you.
  • You make excuses
  • You give up, just as things are about to get reeeaaaaalllly gooood!! 

All of this to protect your delicate inner shadow from seeing the light of day.

So What Do You Do About it? 

Instead of running away, building these defenses, you must invite your shadow self out to play.

  • Get to know her.
  • Talk to her. 
  • See what she’s really like.
  • See what you’re really afraid of. 

The things you’re hiding from yourself are the things which are keeping you stuck.

Your fears are made up of those things you keep pushing down into the darkness. Hoping they’ll go away. Yet terrified that they’ll come up to bite you.

You’re keeping success, love, and abundance at arm’s length by pushing it down.

This is why loving ALL of you is so important.

Bringing all of you to the table.

So that these secret pieces of you stop running the show.

And you’re finally truly FREE.

“Freedom exists through loving all of you.” – Click to Tweet

What it Feels Like When You’re Free

  • Free to enjoy each moment.
  • Free to go after what you really want.
  • Free of those feelings of paralysis and self-doubt.
  • Free to feel energetic, passionate, and fully involved in what you’re doing

Freedom exists through loving all of you.

When you’re stuck in resistance to doing what you love – this is very often your fears of your shadow.

Fear of what would happen if you embraced even the parts of you that aren’t “glossy, perfect, or instagram worthy”.

Because here’s the truth, you’re just human! And your human-being-ness is an essential part of your genius. It’s what makes you so special!

What shadow pieces have you been avoiding?

I coach my clients to embrace all aspects of themselves. To stop hiding in shame from the things they fear others would reject. And to give themselves fierce self-love so that they can finally be free to create the life (and business) they most deeply desire. If you’re ready for this kind of light-speed change – click the button below in the pink box.

I promise you won’t regret it!

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. I’m powerfully psychic and have over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

This Daily Affirmation will Change Your Life

This Daily Affirmation will Change Your Life

The Words that Follow “I am” Follow You:

Watch what you say to yourself daily.

The things you say to yourself habitually end up forming your identity.

When we say “I am X” our subconscious mind takes that statement as literal. 

So if you drop the milk and say “I am a loser” then your subconscious mind will throw up its hands and say “shoot, guess we’re a loser then” and reinforce that subconscious belief through behaviors that limit demonstrate that repeatedly to yourself. 

You become a self-fulfilling prophecy. 

Your job is 80% getting yourself into the mindset of success and 20% implementing through that mindset.

And the right mindset starts with what you say to yourself. 

Because when you’re in the right mindset you easily connect with your truth.

That you are free, powerful, loving, and joyous. 

And this is why affirmations can be so powerful!

They’re made up of purposeful “I am” statements that seed your subconscious mind with what you want to create. Here’s one that I use myself to get you started. 

Tweak it to fit you and what you’re trying to create in your life. 

Start each day by saying this, out loud, and with feeling and see how different things become. 

 

“I am a sexy, sensual, sensitive, kind, confident, loving, debt-free millionaire with abundant health and I contribute meaningfully to society. I give and receive love easily. I am in love with my life and myself. I overflow with absolute clarity of self-love and never settle for less than what I’m worth. I hold my shoulders back and head high and don’t care if anyone else approves. I want this because this is my path and who I fucking AM! I am committed to working on this every day for as long as it takes to achieve!”

“I am in love with my life and myself.” – Click to Tweet

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. I’m powerfully psychic and have over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.

Stop Protecting Those Who Failed to Protect You

Stop Protecting Those Who Failed to Protect You

For many years I have held myself back from naming many of the things that have happened to me.

In a conditioned belief that it was my job to protect those who didn’t protect me.

But I see now that I have cheated not only myself but my clients and those I impact, out of fear of speaking the truth.

Believing You Must Keep Silent

When you come from a background where you were abused, bullied, or made to feel like a terrible person you often carry a secret responsibility to “quietly hold the family secrets”.

So you silence yourself for fear of shaming or guilting others.

Not realizing that you’re actually silencing and shaming yourself.

There’s No Need to Hide

Be honest with yourself. Share your vulnerable heart. Stand up and own what happened in the past.

It does not define you.

It defines them.

There’s no need to hide it anymore.

It’s not your duty to protect them.

It’s time for YOU first now.

Because self-first is not self-ish

“Because self-first is not selfish.” – Click to Tweet

Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. I’m powerfully psychic and have over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.