Bitch Mode Boundaries

Most people hear “boundaries” and they think they have to erect a brick wall that says “STOP”! That they have to go into bitch mode and slap some sense into some people.

But the most effective boundaries don’t work like that.

Boundaries can be kind, inviting, and actually nurture relationships.

Boundaries aren’t about pushing other people back.

They’re not about adopting a “this way or the highway!”

They’re not about coming at people from a place of anger or feeling disrespected.

(In fact, if you’re at that point, you haven’t set your boundaries soon enough).

Setting Boundaries People Want to Follow

Successful boundaries are about expressing your needs and your standards in a way that other people can hear and understand and want to fulfill.

They’re about helping people understand what would make you happy, and how they can give that to you.

It’s about making it clear that by respecting your boundaries, they win too.

Successful boundaries make it easy and fun for people to want to give you what you want.

“There are ways to set boundaries where it feels good for EVERYONE involved.” – Click to Tweet

Don’t Fear Boundaries

Because no one responds well to being bossed around.

No one likes feeling criticized.

People get defensive when they’re approached from a place of anger.

Everyone rebels against orders.

No one wants to hear that harsh critical voice barking out “do this! Not that!”.

And yet, for most women I work with, that’s what they feel that boundaries are.

 “I don’t want to set boundaries, or I won’t be able to stay committed to being loving and caring!”

“I don’t want to set boundaries or I’ll be an asshole!”

“I don’t want to set boundaries or I’ll be abandoning people!”

No wonder you feel like ambivalent about setting boundaries!

Boundaries Are About Love

Boundaries aren’t about abandoning others.

They’re not about being harsh and uncaring.

And they’re most definitely not going to go over well if you’re an asshole about it (lol).

There are ways to set boundaries where it feels good for EVERYONE involved.

Boundaries allow for more intimacy.

Boundaries allow for more vulnerability.

Boundaries actually allow you to be more loving!

Because setting boundaries can be a win-win for everyone.

And when it’s a win-win it’s much easier for EVERYONE to get what they really want.

Now doesn’t that sound fun?

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Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.