How do we show up from a loving place when other people have negative energy? When they’re takers and I don’t really want to be around them? I tend to swing between being distant and cold to being close and letting them walk all over me.


So here’s the thing. As we approach our divine selves more and more we get more and more filled with unconditional love. Unconditional means people don’t have to earn it, people don’t have to be good people. We love them in virtue of just existing. For everyone. This can be difficult when we’re still clogged up with the feeling that we withdraw love when people hurt us or are assy. And our culture teaches us to do this. Withdraw love when others hurt us. But what if instead, we considered that our true nature is love. We are made of love. We can pour love on everyone at all times WHILE NOT PUTTING UP WITH ANY SHIT.

Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to have them in your life, doesn’t mean you approve of them and their actions, doesn’t mean you have to be around them, and most certainly doesn’t mean you have to help them.

Asking yourself “what would love do” and then creating distance if you need it… even though you love the person. Love would not be short and snippy with people. But it would say “I can’t have an active relationship with you if you’re going to be like this.”

Boundaries are ultimately loving things that help you to create MORE intimacy and love in the right relationships.

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Hi! I’m Dr. Ash

I help women who come from challenging backgrounds that have conditioned them to put others first to live a “hell yes” life where they leave the shoulds behind. My clients learn to live a passion-filled, turned-on, lit-up life where everything is possible and to connect with their own intuitive genius.

To stop prioritizing other people’s opinions, to give themselves permission to go after their own desires, to be deeply self-expressed, self-confident, vibrant, and to release the limiting beliefs that have made them feel selfish or self-centered for putting themselves first in the past.

I have my Ph.D. in psychology, was the director of two multi-million dollar international coach training schools. She’s powerfully psychic and has over a decade of experience helping hundreds of people transform to feeling passionate, vibrant, fulfilled, and joyful.