WHY “get comfortable being uncomfortable” IS BAD ADVICE. Going to a new level in your business and in your life requires you to get all up into your own discomfort. Now, the nice personal growth world would say “get comfortable being uncomfortable” But that’s just not how this works. The discomfort is never comfortable. If it’s comfortable that’s because you’ve slid back into complacency. You’ve gone back into the plateau instead of shattering the ceiling and breaking through the threshold. Staying motivated. Getting more done Developing better relationships Being vulnerable Being the leader you were meant to be Changing patterns that have been keeping you stuck It all requires a commitment on your part to stay with the discomfort. A WILLINGNESS to stay in the chaos A willingness to stick with the discomfort. The discomfort can look like a lot of things. It can look like: * Not knowing the answers. * Not knowing how other people will react. * Not knowing what’s coming next. * Confronting the parts of yourself that are no longer working. * Looking at that critical inner voice that’s always sabotaging you. * Owning your lack of persistence. * Recognizing your tendency to blame other people. * Refusing to own your ability to change the flow of your life. * Seeing how you’ve wanted it to be different but have refused to stay in the “discomfort zone”. * The discomfort of realizing you gave away your power by blaming things external to yourself. It all requires you to stay awake. To be willing to stay uncomfortable. And to not lull yourself into the belief that a life of “ease and passion” means that it’s always easy or comfortable. This is what it means when we say “the obstacle is the path” That thing that you’ve thought was standing in your way? That’s very likely the exact thing that you need to sit with to shift your story.

When you stop yourself from breaking through thresholds it’s almost like swallowing poison. All the energy that’s meant to be focused on building momentum, on moving you forward, on propelling you past the barrier ends up festering inside. It turns to anxiety. It turns to worry. It turns to focusing on “problems” .... which wouldn’t actually be problems if you were focused on the threshold instead of focused on anything and everything BUT the threshold. Every time I’ve broken through thresholds in my life and business it’s come with fear, apprehension, and a small voice inside that says “you can’t do this”. Each time I’ve tried the whole “holding myself back” thing it always results in the same stagnant energy that creates all kinds of problems in my life. * I worry about things that don’t need to be worried about. * I convince myself I’m not “ready yet”. * I tell myself “now isn’t the right time”. * I get really busy doing things that don’t matter. * I get lethargic and unfocused on what’s important. * I rely on logic instead of the wisdom inside of me. When you hold yourself back, and you stop yourself short and end up feeling like there’s a wild stallion inside of you that has nowhere to go. And so that wild stallion ends up railing away inside of you - kicking up all kinds of trouble to try to get your attention. Every single time. But it doesn’t have to be that way. When you feel these obstacles it’s a red flashing light that’s showing you that there’s a threshold for you to break through. It’s an invitation. In order to break through to the other side, guaranteed, you’ve got to: * Be willing to explore and sit with the discomfort. * Be willing to see what lies beyond the fears and apprehensions. * Get curious about what’s going on. * Be compassionate to the fearful side of you. But ask it to sit down because you’re no longer allowing it to drive the train. * Trust that this hiccup isn’t the truth, it’s merely a detour. * And keep taking actions, strategic high impact actions. When you see the obstacle as an invitation instead of a wall it invites you stop making excuses and start looking inward - dissolving the wall

BREAKING THROUGH THRESHOLDS It’s like smashing through a wall. A glass ceiling. A reverberating barrier that you’ve always assumed meant “go no further”. But when you embrace the strength to keep moving. To keep trusting. To keep up your momentum DESPITE the oncoming wall ahead. That’s when you begin to see that you’re decisions are the power behind you. Your willingness to keep going despite fear is your superpower. Your trust in yourself to figure it out along the way is your headlight. If you find yourself standing on a threshold you may be convincing yourself that it’s easier to step back into your comfort zone. That’s its simpler to get busy focusing on the things which won’t propel you across to the other side (like all that busy work!). You might tell yourself it’s safer to just keep things as they are. At least you’ll know what to expect. But thresholds are there for a reason. They’re an invitation to more. An invitation to move into the next chapter of your story. To stop living from the old way of being. To shed the skin. To let go of the limits. And BREAK THROUGH. Your breakthrough is imminent. As long as you don’t stop yourself from moving forward. Because that wall? That wall that you’ve convince yourself Is the limit? It’s merely a doorway to the next chapter of your life.

THRESHOLDS When you’re ready for the next level, for the next thing something mysterious happens. You get uncomfortable. You start to feel like things just don’t fit the way they once did. You try to adjust and move around to make things go back to the way they once were. But it’s like your life becomes a sweater that’s been shrunk in the dryer. Too small. That discomfort your feeling is an invitation. It’s an invitation to the next chapter of your life. An invitation to the next thing that’s awaiting you. It’s a whisper in the dark that tells you there’s so much more to the story…. The problem is that we become paralyzed by our fear of the discomfort. We become lulled into the belief that “ease” means “easy”. Breaking through thresholds isn’t easy. But it will create more spaciousness and ease in your life. The key is to recognize the discomfort is NOT a sign to stop. The discomfort is a sign of growth. It’s an invitation to more. An invitation to your next chapter. What will your next chapter be?

The most powerful moment is when you begin to be able to watch yourself objectively and love all of it. When you can watch yourself and your need for approval, your need for acceptance, your need for acknowledgment, your need to prove yourself. And just nod your head and say "I accept you". When you can watch yourself and your feelings of inadequacy, your feelings of fear, your feelings of mistrust, your feelings of overwhelm, your feelings of unworthiness. And you just nod your head and say "I accept you". When you can watch yourself and your feelings of being not enough, being too much, not knowing enough, feeling like you'll never have it figured out. And you just nod your head and say "I accept you". When you watch yourself feel confident, feel unbreakable, feel on top of the world, feel yourself standing in your power. And you just nod your head and say "I accept you". When you fight internal battles against yourself. Trying to make yourself go down those emotional paths. When those parts of you say "look at me! I'm important! Please don't abandon me! Pleaase pay attention to me!" So you turn your head and you look that part in the eye and you really see it. You take the hand of the part of you that feels that way and you really stand with it. You're really present. So you walk those parts of yourself a little bit down the lane. And you say. "I choose to go no further down this path. And I still love you and accept you". The battles that rage inside of you are merely mist. They're made up of make-believe stories. They're made up of certainties that say "See! I knew this was the way it was! This is the way! I finally know the answer!". YET the deeper part of you knows what's really true. What's really you. What's really there inside of you. The deep truth beyond the noise. Calm. Peace. Acceptance. Love. Beneath the current lies a peaceful ocean. Beneath the chaos lies a quiet peace. Beneath the confusion lies a deeper knowing. First, learn to observe yourself and all of the energy inside of you that tries to get you to engage with those stories. Then you discover, the truth, the knowing, the bliss that was there all along

You’re undoubtedly feeling really uncertain at the moment. Chaotic. Fearful. Overwhelmed. Stressed. But chaos is not the enemy. It’s the fear of the unknown that’s the enemy. The fear that unless you can anticipate what will happen, that you’ll end up sol. The truth is, none of us ever know what’s going to happen. None of us is ever sure of what tomorrow will bring. In these trying times take the opportunity to sit with the uncertainty and the chaos and befriend it. Seek through the unknowing and instead of running in the other direction, sit with it. Use this time to grow your capacity to sit with discomfort. To sit with not having all the answers. The more you’re able to do that the more your life will become better in all ways. Your business will grow as you learn to pivot and adapt in uncertainty instead of shutting down. Your relationships will grow as you make room for others to be and do as they will. Far outside your control. And to let go of needing it to be different in order to be happy. Your inner life will thrive as you stop grasping for certainty and you realize that everything you need is already within you. Use this time to remind yourself that you are the shelter in the storm. That you are the safe harbor. And that as long as you choose it, it’s always available to you ❤️